By Duane Hewitt
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” – Aristotle
You feel your pulse quicken each time you find yourself thinking about that person, which is seemingly endlessly. You can’t take your eyes off them when the two of you are near. You wonder where they are and how they are when you’re not together. You daydream and fantasize about them nonstop. You want to hold them, touch them, feel them and caress them. You’re in love.
“We are most alive when we are in love.” – John Updike
But then doubt steps in. You think maybe it can never work – and what about down the road? The long term? Just look at all the snags and glitches and things that can go wrong to thwart you and your love! Then you wonder… is this all one sided? What if that one special person about whom you are so lovingly obsessed doesn’t share your feelings? What if you are someone in a self-deluding nosedive? Your head spins. You think: What if… what if…
Stop! You don’t need to worry just yet about marriage, or kids, or big long-term financial plans and how things are going to work out. All you and your special love need to do is agree to create your own special love story, to give it a try, and to be grateful for your time together for however long it lasts. And if it lasts forever, then how wonderful! But too many of us never make the effort because of that old culprit, fear. We’re scared of rejection. We’re afraid of failure. And we fear all the things that can go wrong before we even take that first step.
“The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.” – Blaise Pascal
The point is that too many opportunities to fall in love and be in love and enjoy love go missed because we never take that necessary first step – never express our desire to get closer and know someone, become their friend, or really put it out there and express our true feelings for them. And yet love stories can be as unique and as many as all the grains of sand of the world. And between two people, there should be no need to feel pressure or fear what might or might not be. Each and every couple can agree that they will create their own special love story – for however little or long it lasts and for whatever it yields. Now that’s love.
“You can’t blame gravity for falling in love.” – Albert Einstein
Copyright 2019 Duane Hewitt
